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TED Talks that Might Just Change the Way You Approach Your Relationship
All of us here at Enliven are avid consumers of books, seminars, research, etc.—anything that keeps us up to date with the latest theories, thought leaders, and studies on sex and relationships. This is great news for you, because we LOVE to share...
A New Kind of Love Triangle
It’s a common reason that couples come to therapy: “I love my partner, but something is missing.” Then, the work circles around discovering what that something is. Is it passion? Is it friendship? Is it trust? Researcher Robert J. Sternberg has...
Sex & Relationship Podcasts You’ll Love
A great way to pass the time on planes, trains, and road trips is listening to podcasts—and, not surprisingly, some of my favorites are those that focus on sex and relationships. If you’ve got some travel time on your hands over the holidays, my...
I’m Kimberly Sharky
AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marital and Family Therapist
I offer relationship & sex coaching in my New York City office & Worldwide via Zoom
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Enliven Your Love: Post-Pandemic Reset Edition
Let’s be honest—none of us receive an education in the art of passionate, fulfilling relationships. And then a pandemic hit and we have all experienced - and are still experiencing - massive shifts in every aspect of our lives.
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The Best Female-Focused Website on Sexual Pleasure You’ve Never Heard Of
Allow me to introduce you to OMGyes.com, ...the absolute best website on female sexuality in the entire internet world. Designed by the OMGyes team in conjunction with research via Indiana University and the Kinsey Institute, OMGyes.com is the...
Empathy: Not Just a Walk In Their Shoes
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.'" – Brené Brown, LCSW...
We can’t go on like this…
The New Year inspires in many of us a chance to reflect and take stock of what is and isn’t working in our lives. Naturally, the state of the union within a relationship or marriage tends to take center stage during this process, given the degree...
A Message for the Resistant Therapy Goer
My clients often share with me that they wish they could convince their partner to start therapy, but they just won’t budge. The excuses are plentiful: “Going to couples therapy is the first step toward divorce.” “Only couples with ‘real’ problems...
New Rules for Online Dating
Despite the “Enliven Couples Therapy” sign on our office door, many clients are in my office for individual therapy—and many of them are single. Whether you’ve been single for ten years or ten minutes, it’s no secret that online dating is the mode...
Come Here Often? The Truth About Orgasm Gaps for Heterosexual Women
A while back, researchers identified a quite large, quite unsurprising gap in orgasms between men and women within different types of relationships. In essence, while 95% of heterosexual men reported that they usually or always climaxed during...
Infidelity 101: The Crisis Phase
“If you really want to gut a relationship, tear out the very heart of it, infidelity is a sure bet.” —Esther Perel Few things knock a relationship off balance as dramatically as the revelation of cheating. Esther Perel, relational sorceress and...
The Six Books You NEED in your Home Library for Healthy Relationships + Sex
As a couples and sex therapist, there are several books I refer back to constantly with my clients, and for good reason: they each offer wisdom in the form of easily-accessible academic research and/or theoretical assumptions and guidance based on...
“Do The Thing”: A Lesson on Follow Through—and Why It Matters
Trust is a fascinating dynamic in relationships. It is foundational, ever-changing, nuanced, and sometimes heartbreaking. For some, there are deep wounds from the past that may take a lifetime to heal. For others, trust issues might arise on a...
When Date Nights Aren’t Enough: Pressing Reset on Your Relationship
We all know the importance of relationship maintenance strategies, including regular date nights and engaging in quality time together. However, there are times when these approaches fall short of what is truly needed: a full relationship reset....
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