All of us here at Enliven are avid consumers of books, seminars, research, etc.—anything that keeps us up to date with the latest theories, thought leaders, and studies on sex and relationships. This is great news for you, because we LOVE to share our finds with our clients as a supplement to the clinical work we do in our offices. Some of my personal favorite gems tend to be short videos of the brilliant minds asked to do TED Talks. I’ve rounded up several of my absolute favorites, all of which I strongly recommend you watch!
 

Esther Perel: The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

With over 13 million views, it’s no secret that Esther is the queen of modern theory on sex and relationships. And for very good reason. Check out her first TED Talk here:
 

Esther Perel: Rethinking Infidelity…A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved

Another jewel by Esther Perel, with well over 11 million views. Her take on infidelity is revelatory, and can be applied to those who have experienced infidelity and those who haven’t, just the same.
 

Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability

Brene Brown is a research professor who has spent her life’s work studying vulnerability, shame, and empathy. I use her work and theories on a daily basis, both personally and professionally, because of its raw ability to dig into human truths and courage.
 

Brene Brown: Listening to Shame

Yes, I’m doubling up on both Esther and Brene, and for good reason: both are powerhouse female thought leaders absolutely NAILING the relational game. This one, with over 11 million views, explores what can happen when we confront shame (our most difficult human emotion) head-on.
 

Have we missed any of your favorites? Comment below! We’re always on the lookout for new and provocative talks!