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A great way to pass the time on planes, trains, and road trips is listening to podcasts—and, not surprisingly, some of my favorites are those that focus on sex and relationships. If you’ve got some travel time on your hands over the holidays, my...
As a couples and sex therapist, there are several books I refer back to constantly with my clients, and for good reason: they each offer wisdom in the form of easily-accessible academic research and/or theoretical assumptions and guidance based on...
We all know the importance of relationship maintenance strategies, including regular date nights and engaging in quality time together. However, there are times when these approaches fall short of what is truly needed: a full relationship reset....
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Enliven Your Love:
Post-Pandemic Reset Edition
NEW PROGRAMS
Let’s be honest—none of us receive an education in the art of passionate, fulfilling relationships. And then a pandemic hit and we have all experienced - and are still experiencing - massive shifts in every aspect of our lives.
The Enliven Your Love Programs are your tickets to reconnecting with yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
I remember a conversation over lunch with my former graduate school supervisor as we discussed my training for the marathon: 23-year-old-me: “Ugh, I still have my 20-miler to do. Training has been really difficult. I don’t know how I’ll get through...
Ok, I’m going to pull a therapist move and talk about feelings. Emotions are fascinating, complex, universal, and they heavily impact our relationships. Ready? Raise your hand if: You’re hard on yourself. You dislike feelings. You’re not in touch...
In conceptualizing sexuality, we note that while everyone is unique and very special, there are also some commonalities across the board. Developing models that clarify these aspects provide direction when we’re looking to dig in and tinker with...
I know nothing about cars. So when, one day, my beloved Jeep Wrangler hit a pothole on I-55 and began to shake and swerve uncontrollably, forcing me to confront the possibility of an untimely, fiery death, I immediately drove it to the shop to get...
When you last heard from me directly, I shared the importance of being willing to experience anxiety and discomfort in order to infuse your relationship with more eroticism (i.e. sharing preferences and having challenging conversations). I received...
When choosing a partner, it’s easy to focus on the qualities we’d like in another person: Must be tall, dark, and handsome. Must come from a good family. Must love dogs. But in this search for our other half, we often miss a very important factor;...
It’s that time of year again! With Chicago beaches opening for the season this Friday, having the ol’ bod beach-ready is at the top of everyone’s list. Some quick tips for making sure you’re all set: Look down, check the mirror, give a pinch or...
A huge part of our job as relationship and sex therapists, it seems, is to actively and eagerly dispel myths about “healthy” sexuality, sexual functioning, and relational well-being. This week’s topic tackles a widespread and wildly untrue myth...
“Nobody tells you how long marriage is. When you fall in love, when you have fun with somebody, when you enjoy the way they see the world, nobody ever says, ‘This person will change. And so you will be married to two, three, four, five or 10 people...
You've heard it before: Every relationship has its highs and lows. Love is a roller coaster. Sure, we have to learn to navigate the natural ups and downs of a relationship; these are essential skills for building resilience as a healthy couple. I...
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