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“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.'" – Brené Brown, LCSW...
Despite the “Enliven Couples Therapy” sign on our office door, many clients are in my office for individual therapy—and many of them are single. Whether you’ve been single for ten years or ten minutes, it’s no secret that online dating is the mode...
As a couples and sex therapist, there are several books I refer back to constantly with my clients, and for good reason: they each offer wisdom in the form of easily-accessible academic research and/or theoretical assumptions and guidance based on...
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Enliven Your Love:
Post-Pandemic Reset Edition
NEW PROGRAMS
Let’s be honest—none of us receive an education in the art of passionate, fulfilling relationships. And then a pandemic hit and we have all experienced - and are still experiencing - massive shifts in every aspect of our lives.
The Enliven Your Love Programs are your tickets to reconnecting with yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
I know nothing about cars. So when, one day, my beloved Jeep Wrangler hit a pothole on I-55 and began to shake and swerve uncontrollably, forcing me to confront the possibility of an untimely, fiery death, I immediately drove it to the shop to get...
When you last heard from me directly, I shared the importance of being willing to experience anxiety and discomfort in order to infuse your relationship with more eroticism (i.e. sharing preferences and having challenging conversations). I received...
When choosing a partner, it’s easy to focus on the qualities we’d like in another person: Must be tall, dark, and handsome. Must come from a good family. Must love dogs. But in this search for our other half, we often miss a very important factor;...
To you, yelling is just a spirited conversation. To him, it means you might leave him. To you, passive aggressive is the only way to let her know you’re upset. To her, pushing your buttons will do the trick. To me, “a lot” of family time is when...
“My love for him is as strong as ever, but our sexual connection is another story.” “She’s my wife, the mother of our children. I just can’t imagine objectifying her the way I can with strangers I pass on the street.” “If I were to share what I...
It’s that time of year again! With Chicago beaches opening for the season this Friday, having the ol’ bod beach-ready is at the top of everyone’s list. Some quick tips for making sure you’re all set: Look down, check the mirror, give a pinch or...
A huge part of our job as relationship and sex therapists, it seems, is to actively and eagerly dispel myths about “healthy” sexuality, sexual functioning, and relational well-being. This week’s topic tackles a widespread and wildly untrue myth...
“Nobody tells you how long marriage is. When you fall in love, when you have fun with somebody, when you enjoy the way they see the world, nobody ever says, ‘This person will change. And so you will be married to two, three, four, five or 10 people...
You've heard it before: Every relationship has its highs and lows. Love is a roller coaster. Sure, we have to learn to navigate the natural ups and downs of a relationship; these are essential skills for building resilience as a healthy couple. I...
What turns you on? It’s a simple question. But the answer—and how to communicate that answer to a sexual partner—often feels much more complicated. Turn ons are the interests and preferences that shape our sexual experience. They vary greatly from...
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