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A Message for the Resistant Therapy Goer
My clients often share with me that they wish they could convince their partner to start therapy, but they just won’t budge. The excuses are plentiful: “Going to couples therapy is the first step toward divorce.” “Only couples with ‘real’ problems...
New Rules for Online Dating
Despite the “Enliven Couples Therapy” sign on our office door, many clients are in my office for individual therapy—and many of them are single. Whether you’ve been single for ten years or ten minutes, it’s no secret that online dating is the mode...
Come Here Often? The Truth About Orgasm Gaps for Heterosexual Women
A while back, researchers identified a quite large, quite unsurprising gap in orgasms between men and women within different types of relationships. In essence, while 95% of heterosexual men reported that they usually or always climaxed during...
I’m Kimberly Sharky
AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marital and Family Therapist
I offer relationship & sex coaching in my New York City office & Worldwide via Zoom
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Enliven Your Love: Post-Pandemic Reset Edition
Let’s be honest—none of us receive an education in the art of passionate, fulfilling relationships. And then a pandemic hit and we have all experienced - and are still experiencing - massive shifts in every aspect of our lives.
The Enliven Your Love Programs are your tickets to reconnecting with yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
Keeping Things Sexy: The Parenting Edition
There is a particularly toxic cultural myth spread by many that once you have kids your sex life goes down the drain. What is specifically dangerous about this belief is that it is always spoken as if it is Truth—a permanent, unavoidable state of...
Flirting 101 — Because It’s Never Too Late to Bring Back That New-Relationship Spark
There are many things about new relationships that are just so much fun. There’s the surprise of getting to know someone new, the extra attention that goes into creative dates and romantic moments, and, of course, flirting—those subtle, cutesy,...
Accelerate Your Sexual Response—But Avoid the Brakes
In conceptualizing sexuality, we note that while everyone is unique and very special, there are also some commonalities across the board. Developing models that clarify these aspects provide direction when we’re looking to dig in and tinker with...
The ‘Right’ Time for Therapy? Yesterday.
I know nothing about cars. So when, one day, my beloved Jeep Wrangler hit a pothole on I-55 and began to shake and swerve uncontrollably, forcing me to confront the possibility of an untimely, fiery death, I immediately drove it to the shop to get...
The Language of Love—And How to Speak It
“At the heart of humankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another.” -Gary Chapman Yes! We all want to feel loved and connected. Sounds simple, right? In his book “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts,”...
Pleasure, Party of One
When you last heard from me directly, I shared the importance of being willing to experience anxiety and discomfort in order to infuse your relationship with more eroticism (i.e. sharing preferences and having challenging conversations). I received...
Being Your Best Relational Self
When choosing a partner, it’s easy to focus on the qualities we’d like in another person: Must be tall, dark, and handsome. Must come from a good family. Must love dogs. But in this search for our other half, we often miss a very important factor;...
TV, Shame-Free: Sex-Positive Choices for Your Next Binge
One of the issues that often comes up when our sexual relationships aren’t faring as well as we would like, is that sex becomes “serious business.” Every encounter, conversation or mention is a BIG DEAL. We may avoid talking about sex altogether...
Understanding Women’s Pelvic Pain
Over the last several years, I’ve become more and more interested in working with female clients experiencing pelvic pain. Pelvic pain is a widely under-researched, misunderstood area of women’s health. [For the record, men, too, can experience...
Family Ties: Understanding Where Your “Normal” Comes From
To you, yelling is just a spirited conversation. To him, it means you might leave him. To you, passive aggressive is the only way to let her know you’re upset. To her, pushing your buttons will do the trick. To me, “a lot” of family time is when...
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