A simple piece of advice for women—or those who have sex with women—about enhancing their sexual pleasure:

Get to know the clitoris. I mean really get to know it.

After all, it’s the only part of the female body that exists purely for your pleasure—so you might as well give it the chance to live out its destiny.

You may just know it as that bump at the top of the vaginal opening. But it is SO. MUCH. MORE.

The clitoris is actually a fairly large organ that has roots that extend inside the body under your skin for about 5 to 10 centimeters.

The visible part (the glans clitoris) sits at the junction of the inner lips of the vulva (the labia minora) and ranges in size from barely visible to poking out like a small penis. Then, the corpora and crura extend down, hiding out under the skin on either side. Just like the penis, arousal leads to increased blood flow to all parts of the clitoris, which increases sensitivity, and the glans will become erect when a woman is aroused. In fact, the external section of the clitoris can become up to three times larger during arousal.

Here’s a great diagram of the clitoris—the whole clitoris—from the book we sex therapists are all mildly obsessed with, “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski:

These hidden parts may not feel pleasure as intensely as the glans—but that doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t be explored and appreciated. (For the rare 25% of women who experience vaginal orgasms, this is why.) And that little nub that extends outside of the body is quite special.

It has double (that’s right, double) the nerve endings of the average penis, which means it’s highly sensitive—and has a high pleasure potential.

Some women find that touching it directly feels too intense, so they prefer to take a less direct approach; others love to go directly for the money spot. Some prefer clitoral touch with a finger or tongue, while others much prefer the intensity of a vibrator. No matter how your clitoris (or the clitoris of someone you love) looks or likes to be touched, it is perfectly normal—and you deserve to know.

Want to know a bit more? Check out this fun animated video, “Le Clitoris”: